Time and experience have taught me that working directly with Alzheimer’s patients and other people requiring long-term care was not the career path for me. As much as my sensitivity and empathy worked in my favour while working in long-term care homes, it also worked against me in these situations. I felt much guilt for betraying my desire to do something good in the world. But to make up for this act of “giving up” I vowed to make a difference in my own way through research and writing. The desire to be involved in discussions and analysing situations surrounding ageing has stayed by my side. Better yet, my desire to improve the ageing process has stayed the same.
To say that Still Alice had an impact on me is an understatement. After crying my last cry at the end, I took a moment to try to understand what had overcome me. As painful as the story was, I was glad to have read it. I realize it’s a fictional story. However, it also represents what many individuals and families experience. Much of what I read reminded me of my previous work within long-term care settings. The difference lay in the fact that I had only received part of the picture when interacting with patients with Alzheimer’s disease and other cognitive impairments. The author, Lisa Genova, presents a full bodied scenario of what early onset Alzheimer’s disease looks like from the symptoms to the diagnosis to the progression of the aggressive disease to the ripples it creates for everyone involved. Genova’s primary aim in writing this novel was to spread greater awareness on early onset Alzheimer’s disease. Without giving away too much of the plot, this review is my way of helping to leverage her initiative by sharing some of the lessons we can learn from early onset Alzheimer’s disease.
Alzheimer’s Disease is not reserved for the older adult population
It would seem convenient if it was. Not to say Alzheimer’s disease is by any means easier for the 65+ age group. It’s not. When I learned about early onset Alzheimer’s disease while completing my degree in Gerontology, the information never truly seeped in because of my limited interactions with early onset patients. Genova’s vivid and haunting descriptions make you feel like you’re right there experiencing the disease the way a patient or family member would. It’s sad to think that someone reaching the peak of her career, looking to achieve more, could lose it all without harnessing any sort of control. Beyond the context of this novel, I started to consider what this would all mean as a sufferer prepares for retirement or long-term care options. While Alice considered how her husband might have to finance her potential move into a long-term care home, I started to think about how helpless she feels in this situation. The idea of moving into a long-term care home alone is overwhelming enough. But it must be extra overwhelming to imagine a day when the ability to financially contribute to your own health is no longer within your control. Even when you’re still “at the age” to work. It’s almost as though you’re racing against time before the debilitating disease rears it’s ugly head.
Even the most surefire methods of prevention can work against you
The main character, Dr. Alice Howland, was a highly accomplished cognitive psychology professor at Harvard University. Much to everyone’s shock, hers included, she became diagnosed with symptoms of early onset Alzheimer’s disease. It is widely assumed that keeping your mind sharp and education are good ways to delay or prevent the onset of Alzheimer’s disease. But even in the best efforts, your genetic makeup triumphs. On the relatively bright side, there may be ways to prepare for Alzheimer’s disease. This TED talk struck me with a sense of hope. The advice provided by Alanna Shaikh may help complement your existing knowledge of early onset Alzheimer’s disease. As the speaker says “if the monster wants you, the monster’s gonna get you.” However, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try your best to prevent Alzheimer’s. A combination of both prevention and preparation may be effective.
The “rare few” who experience a disease, condition, or circumstance need a lot of support
Alice was angered by her shocking diagnosis, one that made her stand out. Can you blame her? Absolutely not. When she was searching for support, she felt alone. She had to create her own initiatives to seek support from other early onset sufferers. After being in touch with a local social worker, she was able to develop her own support group. What unravels afterwards is both uplifting and sad. (I won’t provide any spoilers here, I promise.) However, I will say that if there are no support networks in place for early onset Alzheimer’s patients, then there should be. Still Alice helped to bring this need to the forefront.
There is no right or wrong way for family and friends to handle Alzheimer’s disease. Everyone has their own way of coping.
As a long-term care home staff member, you never quite see the full picture of family conflicts and coping. Most of the time, the family members are pleasant and friendly to the staff. But deep down you know there is a pain behind their smiles, struggles that are left unsaid. As the story of Still Alice progressed, I felt a sense of anger toward some of the family members, Alice’s husband in particular. On the other hand, the role of a primary caregiver is never ever easy. It was because of this deep love that he reacted the way he did. If he showed indifference toward Alice, I may been more upset while reading this novel. At the end of it all, my opinions and the opinions of others toward coping mechanisms carry no weight. No one is in a position to judge or dictate how well someone is coping with something as tragic.
Early onset Alzheimer’s disease is an even longer goodbye
Nancy Reagan described Alzheimer’s disease as a “truly long goodbye.” She made this poignant statement in reference to her husband’s experience with the disease. When I stumbled upon this quote in university, I was moved, saddened, and could never quite get that quote out of my head. I’m sure it resonates with so many other family members and caregivers of Alzheimer’s patients. But when I was granted this in-depth view of Alice’s experience, I sympathized with her family and friends even more. I realized that early onset Alzheimer’s disease means that you spend more time saying “goodbye” to the person you once knew. In the process, you also spend more time saying “goodbye” to your hopes of how you planned to spend time with that person. It’s like a ghost who lingers in your presence.
I’ve been advised not to read books with a sad context when you already feel sad. As good as this advice may be, I don’t think there’s ever a wrong time to read this book, especially for those who
want need to know more about early onset Alzheimer’s disease. At this point in time, the tragic and inconvenient reality is that Alzheimer’s disease does not wait for a right time. In actuality, it sucks away time. Educate yourself on early onset, get yourself tested if you suspect any signs, and most importantly, make the most of the time you have while you are still you.
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